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“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” (Proverbs 25:11)

Today, we are going to examine the words “fitly spoken” and how it relates to the practical and biblical principles for “Spiritual” growth. In essence, “fitly spoken” represents the appropriate manner in a speaking style; oral communication. In the business world, it is called “social skills,” one of the key components in Emotional Intelligence for leaders leveraging in employee development and culture. It is your ability to communicate positively to produce life and growth in the current environment. The “social skills” is a direct connection of the “influence” someone has over you.

In the context of the scripture, King Solomon left on record for leadership following him, the importance of words spoken, and building up people to grow. For instance, personally, I call this “The Power of Encouragement.” It is knowing what to say, when to say it, and the expected outcome. Encouragement is like a two-way street. It is an in-depth ability to listen and communicate in an appropriate manner. Thought to ponder: Your “social skills” is a pivotal point of separating “true leaders” from “just leaders.” There is a difference, “true” is the state of original and faithful; “just” is the state of conforming to a standard.

What lessons can be learned about “fitly spoken” and “social skills?” There are five (5) important lessons. Discovering the “Truth” in “Know” and “When:

Lessons Learned About Fitly Spoken and Social Skills

  1. Know the value of the words you speak and when to speak
  2. Know encouraging words are like fruitful--numberless apples on a tree and precious as fine gold. When cultivated the fruit produces other precious fruit. This is priceless growth in a team environment
  3. Know encouraging words will produce a leadership environment for growth defined as settings of silver (high quality)
  4. Know the right words will resolve conflict when spoken appropriately
  5. Know as a leader, everyone will not listen, and reserve your speech for those who will listen. Communicate to be effective and not to please.

In closing, choose wisely the words you speak, define “if” you are a “true leader” or “just leader,” practice speaking encouraging words to build up and not tear down, and know you can change the environment by the words you speak. Remember, an environment that does not produce life is an environment of control and oppression. No personal development growth is a stagnated culture. Change your environment if needed. Speak life, grow, and lead!  “You Have Value!”

Be Blessed and stay connected to Jesus,

Lady Cynthia R. Kelly
God’s Humble Servant
Evangelist - International Author

eLearners and Podcast Learners, (67), 2017-2022. For Booking Motivational Speaking Engagements and Workshop Facilitation of Episode, contact 

  • Motivational Wisdom Episode - Fitly Spoken5:27