#MotivationalWisdom - Straight-Talk - Toxicity of Bitterness

"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.” (Hebrews 12:15, NKJV)

​Today, I am going to start with this quote the Lord gave to me, “Bitterness is a seed rooted with dimensions of a cycle of unhealthy toxicity.” Just reflect on this for a moment: “Bitterness, seed, and toxicity.” Now this perspective draws on psychological mental capacity of behavioral science correlating to the cognitive, which encompasses anthropology, physiology, and sociology. Herein, the connectivity impact deals with the affective science of emotions relating to the affect of complex reaction pattern of humans to certain stimuli and how those reactions affect humans both physically and mentally. Emotions or not feelings or moods, feelings or moods derive from emotions. Emotional experiences have three components: A subjective experience, a physiological response and a behavioral or expressive response.

Premise: The depth complex elements of psychological paradigms in humans’ connectivity to the physiological, anthropological, and sociological of “interaction and response,” defines individual character and group character, overtime. What is individual character? The totality of mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual’s attributes and personality traits, particularly their characteristic moral, social, and religious attitudes. What is a group character? Several individuals thought of as a group because of a common mental or moral quality or qualities and attributes.

Let's stop to digest
Bitterness encompasses the psychological mental capacity, emotional capacity, connecting to the anthropology, physiology, and sociology of interaction and response with other people, situations, and environments. Let us think in the scripture context living in the practical, “The heart knows its own bitterness, and a stranger does not share its joy.” (Proverbs 14:10). “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” (Ephesians 4:31). Therefore, if the “heart” knows, the “soul and mind” knows of its own bitterness, bitterness must be dealt with appropriately in the encompass dimensions to overcome positivity and in civility.

Let’s stop to define bitterness, seed, and toxicity
What is bitterness? Bitterness is defined: 1) A state of anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; 2) Bitter distress situation, such as grief or vexation of mind; 3) Bitter resentment; 4) Bitter deep-seated ill will as in hostility; 5) Bitter hatred; 6) Bitterness of spirit; 7) Deep malice toward someone to harm; 8) Acidity; 9) Sharpness and bitter manner; 10) Bitter of broken heart; 11) Bitter spitefulness; 12) Bitter vindictiveness; 13) A state of extreme impiety or enmity to God; 14) Bitter schism and apostasy; 15) Bitter envy of another or another possessions; and 16) Bitter jealousy

What is seed? Seed is defined: 1) The seed is the embryonic stage of the plant life cycle; 2) The beginning of something which continues to develop or grow; 3) The principle of production to reproduce; 4) Progeny; a descendant or the descendants of a person, animal, or plant; offspring.

What is toxicity? Toxicity is defined: 1) The quality of being toxic or poisonous; 2) The quality of being very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way; and 3) Contagiousness

Let’s stop to digest beyond the normality of harmony in life to bitterness in life
Let us implement in the perspective of two biblical examples in the depth of humanistic approach with bitterness in life to positively impact growth and development: 

  • Cain and Abel, the offsprings of Adam and Eve - Abel was murdered by his older brother Cain because he was righteous, and his sacrifice was accepted by the Lord. Cain was angry because the Lord did not accept his sacrifice, in a jealous rage, violently murdered his brother and lied to God. Cain bitterness had no remorse, malice was in his heart, mind, and spirit to the intent of murdering his brother. This biblical history is left on record to instruct in right and wrong behaviors, interactions, and responses. (Genesis 4:1–16).
  • Jacob and Esau, twin brothers, offsprings of Isaac and Rebekah - Esau was loved by Issac because he was a skilled hunter, physically strong, and Isacc ate of his game. Rebekah loved Jacob unconditionally who was not a skilled hunter, a mild man dwelling in tents, but spoken of by the Lord to Rebekah to be the stronger with a promise of inheritance. On a certain day, Jacob cooked stew; and Esau came in from the field, weary and hungry, his mental capacity thinking of death, sold his birthright when asked cunningly by Jacob because of hunger. Thus, Esau despised his birthright, sold his birthright, and despised Jacob because he inherited the blessing. (Genesis 25:29–34) (Hebrews 12:16-17). Later, Jacob, wrestles with the Angel of the Lord until the break of dawn in prayer spiritually, physically, and mentally to bless him from the stigma, transformed his situation, and the Angel of the Lord, told him his name changed divinely to Israel because he prevailed in prayer with God and men. (Genesis 32:24-28)

Let's stop to digest, and ask questions of bitterness perspective

​Now, let us stop to ask these challenging personal questions in self-evaluation to reflect on, to move forward positivity. “Have I become a bitter thriving person?” “Does bitterness encompass my total being, situations, and environments?” “Have I become toxic with bitterness?” “What must I let go of in the infancy of embitterment phase?” “Who must I forgive and let go of that is toxic?” And “How will I help myself, and seek help in bitterness?”

Life Lessons to Remember
Perspective and Evaluation:
 Let us discuss the bitterness perspective and characteristics to avoid growing and developing into a toxic individual, producing toxicity offsprings, and toxicity in environments. To live in bitterness becomes a choice of the will, in the end.

Seven Behavioral and Emotional Characteristics of Bitterness, Affecting Four Humanistic Elements of: Psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology:

  1. Know how to deal with ANGER. Anger is a debated “basic intense human emotion” you feel when something has gone wrong, or someone has wronged you, but can lead to rage of harm. The complex emotion of unhealthy anger leads to bitterness, releases negative behavior conduct, which can lead to unhealthy mental capacity, continuous behaviors affecting psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology. Cope with anger, let go of anger, and seek help if needed.
  2. ​Know how to deal with DISAPPOINTMENT. Disappointment derives from the “emotion anger” with disciplines of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. Disappointments of events, situations, and environments affecting the individual. Disappointment can lead to unhealthy mental capacity, unhealthy behaviors affecting psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology. Cope with disappointment with positive mechanisms of change, let go of disappointment, and seek help if needed.
  3. Know how to deal with RESENTMENT. Resentment is a “negative emotion” reaction to being mistreated or an emotional reaction to other people getting something you think they do not deserve. Resentment is the state of holding something in the mind as a subject of contemplating on, too long of contemplation in the mind, stems from “emotion anger” that releases negative behavior reaction. The behaviors affect psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology. Cope with resentment, let go of resentment, and seek help if needed.
  4. ​Know how to deal with ENVY. Envy is a “negative emotion” of painful discontent and resentment generated by desire for the possessions, attributes, qualities, or achievements of another (target of envy). Envy is deeply ingrained in covetousness. Envy is characterized by negative behavior starting in the mental capacity, such as thoughts of violence, attacks, oppression, and even murder, that interaction and response is unhealthy. Emotions and behaviors affect psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology. SEEK HELP! Let go of envy and move forward in positive change.
  5. ​​Know how to deal with HATRED. Hatred is a “negative emotion” of strong aversion, intense dislike that encourages the elimination of others, involves dehumanization, or the denial of human qualities to others. The “negative behavior” is an affection of the mind awakened by something regarded as evil, to do evil, or cause violent harm. Hatred characterizes a person’s personality and attributes. Unhealthy emotions and behaviors affect psychology, physiology, anthropology, sociology. SEEK HELP! Let go of hatred and move forward with positive change.
  6. ​Know how to deal with JEALOUSY. Jealousy is a “complex emotion” deriving from resentment and envy, that encompasses feelings ranging from suspicion to rage to fear to humiliation. Jealousy requires a triangle of social relationships between three individuals in which an individual resents a third party for appearing to take away (or being likely to take away) the affections of another. Jealousy emotion can significantly affect mental capacity health, with behavior outburst, anxiety or worry, unhappiness, power plays, painful and unrealistic sabotage of others. Emotions and behaviors affect psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology. SEEK HELP! Let go of jealousy and move forward with positive change.
  7. ​Know how to deal with MALICE. Malice is the unhealthy “negative behavior” of passion in the mind with the intention or desire to do evil; ill will to another without a just cause. Malice is characterized by personality attributes defining the person’s behaviors, defining unhealthy emotions, and unhealthy thought pattern, whereas a spirit delighting and thriving in harm, inflicting injury or suffering on another, either because of a hostile impulse or out of deep-seated meanness. Malice is rooted in evilness. The behaviors connecting to emotions affect psychology, physiology, anthropology, and sociology of everyone connected. SEEK HELP! SEEK HELP! SEEK HELP!

​What advice from this life lesson might I give as a personal reflection in learning, growing, developing, and experience? Act – Do not settle for the "toxicity of bitterness" in you, social relationships, and environments. Some people just thrive on bitterness. Know who you are, know your value, know what you represent, and know what positive stance of integrity you have evaluating yourself, people, places, things, and environments. Pray it through; listen for the Spirit of Wisdom, and then obey the Spirit. Watch your own natural health, behavioral and emotional well-being, and spiritual well-being, taking positive actions. Evaluate who you trust, evaluate the Will of God. Concluding, do not settle for the "toxicity of bitterness."

Be Blessed and stay connected to Jesus,

Lady Cynthia R. Kelly
Host #MotivationalWisdom Podcast

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